Source | www.inc.com | AMY MORIN
My training had taught me to build on people’s existing strengths. But over the years, I’ve realized that helping people “do more” of their good habits was sometimes doing them a disservice.
If you sought help from a nutritionist to lose weight and the nutritionist said, “Eat more vegetables,” but never mentioned you should “eat less junk food,” you probably wouldn’t succeed. And you’d likely feel frustrated by your lack of progress.
Similarly, building mental strength requires good habits–like practicing gratitude–but you also need to give up bad habits–like giving up after your first failure.
Often, people go through life with one foot on the gas and the other foot on the brake. Giving up the things mentally strong people don’t do is like taking your foot off the brake. You’ll move forward with less resistance.
Everyone engages in habits that drain them of mental strength from time to time. But being aware of those bad habits is the first step in giving them up.
Here are 13 things mentally strong people don’t do:
1. They don’t waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
Feeling sad or grieving a loss is critical to your healing process. But self-pity is about magnifying your misfortune and exaggerating your hardship. It causes you to dwell on your problems and stay stuck in your misery.