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7 Easy Ways to Become More Self-Assured

Industry leading company CEO shares tips and takeaways for cultivating confidence stating right NOW

By | Merilee Kern

The dictionary defines the word “confidence” as “a feeling or consciousness of one’s powers or of reliance on one’s circumstances” and the “faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way.” In all of these characterizations, there’s one thing in common, quite literally: the notion of “one.” Fundamentally, confidence speaks to singularity and individuality. It’s an internal mindfulness representing a person’s state of being. It’s an attitude. A conviction.

As Henry Ford famously asserted, “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”

Given the key role confidence would seem to play in one’s ability to achieve and ascend in the workplace, and life in general, why do so many lament that they would like to be “more” confident and self-assured if not entirely fearless? Throngs of studies cite a societal “confidence crisis” that’s ostensibly resulting in opportunity loss across the board—for individuals, couples, families, business departments, companies, societies, and economies at large.

Interestingly, cultivating confidence is easier than one might think and the importance of striving to do so cannot be understated, given the extent to which we as individuals affect the collective. In fact, entrepreneur Dawn Hunter has developed a multitude of methods to transcend chronic uncertainty and pessimism—the kind that undermines our advancement and keeps people stuck in the status quo.

Hunter, who’s founder of the VINE Training Academy among other professional pursuits, has worked with a variety of clients to help them curate and actualize the courage, fortitude and spirit needed to achieve career and personal goals.

Below are fully seven of her tactical tips that anyone can start enacting right now.

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Recalibrate the Cranium

Science wins. We now know that our brains are infinitely capable of dramatic change given the right tools and time. A mindset makeover is possible. Utilizing the power of our subconscious minds, it is factual that one can makeover the mind in 90 days. In fact, we know that it takes only 30 days to make or break a new habit with subconscious training. Hypnotherapy is a powerful system of accessing, directly, the mind’s hard drive system. One only has to dedicate the time for the shift, about 1 hour a day to hypnotherapy drivers, and conscious refocusing on the new goal will win. Sticky notes and daily phone reminders, along with a specific-focused hypnotherapy will literally reboot the brain.

Seek Strategic Mentorship

Humans are social for the most part and who our “tribe” is, generally, is who we are. Seeking the “who you want to be” is a tactical success move. Just as you choose where to drive your car and end up at that destination, so too, can you drive your life and end up in another part of town, with mentorship alliances. Seek and ye shall receive. Ask and ye shall get. Step out of your comfort zone and ask for a mentor. Successful people like to share that knowledge, but you must be dedicated to hearing and following. No one wants to mentor a know-it-all, so sock that attitude away and be open, new, young-in-mind and a sponge. Be open to learning and mentorship – it can be a fast track to success.

Tame the Toxicity

We are all too fully aware of negative nellies, those people that never see the good or successes in life. Some are family members. To move towards your new success and goal, you must snip out the pessimists. We are social beings and our tribe can influence us in many subtle ways. Be aware of your surroundings, who is influencing you and get rid of the negative ones. Literally snip them out. If they are family, let them know you are on this new path and they can be there in your wins only if they are supportive. Otherwise, you need to take a break and can see them on designated holidays for now. When you reach higher, you may actually influence them to seek higher goals.

Perfect your Presence

We all know about PR, public relations. How you are seen the world takes some thought and focus. When you are putting yourself out there to create a persona for your business or career, it matters how you present. Decide on who you are as the brand leader and focus your PR around this main goal. Dress the part, act the part, and then control your imagery with good photos and design. We live on social media these days and with the amazing ability to create ourselves, we also have to monitor ourselves. Follow the old rules of grandmothers everywhere: “If you have nothing good to say, then say nothing at all.” Meaning, if you have nothing good to post, write or show that isn’t increasing your brand presence, then don’t. Think before you post.

Be Assertive, Not Annoying

Now this depends upon where you reside. What might be assertive in New Jersey could be deemed annoying in LA. Regional differences are real and if you plan to be a global brand, its best you learn to Geo Target. Go getters are typically assertive types but use social graces to achieve their goals without being rude or annoying. Notice and learn your audience, Geo target. Perhaps a phone call at 6am is fine for a day trader in New York, but would really piss off a California resident that works in the music arena. So make sure you craft your assertiveness to the audience. And always remember your manners. Remember what mom said? “Use your manners.”

Maintain Your Composure, No Matter What: We all remember that commercial for deodorant. Never let them see you sweat. So true. No one wants to see someone lose it in a professional setting unless it is the brand. Like the crazy chef on TV that always berates his clients. Even that brand, though, still doesn’t resonate well in the long run in person. Learn DBT skills, well established Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It teaches self-management and is a highly effective system to not lose it and de-escalate. It has been proven in DBT that with practice, one can gain incredible self-composure skills in the face of alarming panic. Self-management is the key as one cannot control her outside environment totally. Losing one’s composure is also a way to lose credibility, so fight the urge to say anything negative on social media or in person. Keep it clean and cool.

Exude Strong Character – Traverse with Vison and Values

All great leaders have this quality. Vision and values stick to your core and do not waiver to change with the wind. Remember that diamonds are created under enormous pressure. Learn tactics on how to maintain your core values in diversity or aggressive environments. Take martial arts class to develop self-discipline and confidence. Yoga has been shown to increase core strength and mental stamina. Always take the high road and stay solid. In the end it will circle back to success. A child discussing a parent will look back as an adult in admiration and practice those qualities learned over years of solid values. This is how we create our core competent selves. Virtue and values win in the end.

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When creating a habit out of any of the seven strategies above or, better, any of them in combination, situations can be approached with less (or dare I say zero) fear, intimidation, dread and anxiety. Instead, you’ll be better prepared and inclined to assert ideas and solutions with greater ease, polish and poise. You just might gain the kind of calm and quiet confidence that exudes equanimity and commands respect. That’s one helluva upside. Go for it. You got this!


Author Bio:

As the Executive Editor and Producer of “The Luxe List,” Merilee Kern is an internationally-regarded brand analyst, strategist and futurist. As a prolific branding and marketplace trends pundit, Merilee spotlights noteworthy industry innovators, change makers, movers and shakers. Experts, brands, products, services, destinations and events across all categories are spotlighted in her exclusive cross-media platform that reaches multi-millions each month through several syndication channels: print and online publications as well as broadcast TV and terrestrial radio. Connect with her at www.TheLuxeList.com / Instagram www.Instagram.com/LuxeListReviews / Twitter www.Twitter.com/LuxeListEditor / Facebook www.Facebook.com/TheLuxeList / LinkedIN www.LinkedIn.com/in/MerileeKern

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https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/confidence

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