Source | www.inc.com | CHRISTINA DESMARAIS
Of all the personality traits, confidence may be most highly correlated with success. In business, it helps a person take risks and pursue opportunities. And compared with insecure people, those who are confident are perceived as more attractive and tend to have a larger circle of high-quality relationships.
What is it about confidence that’s so enticing? First off, it’s important to make distinctions about what confidence is not. It’s not cockiness or a sense of being better than others. Rather, it’s a quiet belief in one’s own ability without the hubris that results in arrogance. Here are the kinds of things you’ll hear truly confident people say.
1. “I wouldn’t worry about it.”
Go to a confident friend with a list of “what-ifs” or reasons why something may turn out badly and you’ll likely hear this kind of reassurance. It’s because confident people generally don’t worry. They understand that even if something goes wrong, they can handle it. It’s the persistent feeling that regardless of what happens–good or bad–they will cope.
2. “Go for it.”
Along with a lack of anxiety comes a sense of optimism. Truly confident people expect good things to happen. At the same time, their track record of making good decisions means they also possess the ability to temper their positivity with realistic thinking.
3. “Doing it this way works for me.”
Confident individuals don’t feel compelled to conform to gain acceptance from others. This is the central beauty of confidence–the calm self-assurance that makes others want to follow.