Source | www.thriveglobal.com : By Kathy Caprino
In my various professional roles throughout 35 years of working – as a corporate director/VP, therapist, career coach and writer — I’ve been fortunate to learn from amazingly successful, impactful and inspiring people – including business leaders, thought influencers, creatives, artists, and entrepreneurs. I’ve taken the past 12 years to study closely what “success” is at the heart, and how people who are reaching their highest potential joyfully approach life differently from others.
I’m defining “success” here not as some objective measure of wealth, accomplishment or achievement (which our society tends to do), but as achieving what matters most to you, individually and authentically. Sadly, I’ve met scores of millionaires and others whom society has deemed as highly “successful” but inwardly are not. In fact, many don’t derive any joy, satisfaction or reward from the money they’ve amassed.
In observing people in action who are living fully on their terms and absolutely loving it, I’ve seen how they think, react, interrelate, problem solve, and lead. I’ve noted that people who love their lives, and love what they do for a living — and have achieved tremendous success, fulfillment and reward — not only engage continuously in life-supporting (and generous and compassionate) behaviors, but also avoid certain negative actions and mindsets that other, less successful people habitually get lost in.
The 8 self-limiting, negative behaviors successful people avoid are:
Engaging in “below the line” thinking
“Below the line” thinking refers to a particular mindset that shapes how you view the world in a limiting way. It leads to your believing that what’s happening to you is outside your control and everyone else’s fault – the economy, your industry, your boss, your spouse, etc. Below the line thinking says, “It’s not fair what’s happening, and I don’t have what it takes to overcome these challenges. I didn’t expect this and I can’t handle it.” Above the line thinking, on the other hand, says, “I clearly see the obstacles ahead, and I’m addressing them with open eyes. I’m accountable for my life and my career, and I have what it takes to navigate through this successfully. If I fail, I’ll still wake up tomorrow exactly who I am, and will have learned something critical that will help me on my path.”