Source | LinkedIn : By Tara Mapes
“Your actions speak so loudly, I cannot hear what you are saying.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson.
It’s a Universal Language: Everyone speaks it.
Body Language accounts for 80% of what we are telling others. It’s universal because we all have brains and our brains control our body’s ‘voice’. The Limbic Brain System is the first to receive emotion and “tattle”. Blushing is a good example of this. You can ‘say’ you weren’t embarrassed, but your embarrassment was received in the Limbic system, and it sent blood to your cheeks that others saw.
Through body language you can postulate what others are thinking and feeling—even when their words do not align with their body language. It can also give you insight into what you’re saying with your body.
Here you will find signs that reveal honesty, attraction, power, deception and more.
Primalogist Signe Preuschoft traces the smile back over 30 million years of evolution to a “fear grin” stemming from monkeys and apes who often used barely clenched teeth to portray to predators that they were harmless (Wikipedia).
Smiles are recognized universally in this way. It is received as a greeting, a declaration of no intent to harm, a welcoming, and a gesture of warmth.
But are all smiles really warm?
Smiles are genuine when they reach the eyes. Let’s be honest, we’ve all given a courtesy smile. These smiles don’t reach the eyes, and oftentimes the smile will pull the left side of the face higher as we force a false emotion. Although we have good intentions when giving a ‘courtesy smile’, now you know that your lack of genuineness could be betrayed by that overzealous left side of your face.
People use their hands without awareness when they speak. The hands can tell a story, betray a lie, and also show innocence or genuineness.
When palms are up, as if to say “I didn’t do it” or “what more can I do?” It is often accompanied by truth. You have heard of the saying “clean hands”? Think of how you would show someone your hands are clean: palms up. This is the same gesture used when being truthful.
Palms down suggests hiding something, and can even be received as powerful.
When I am talking to someone about body language I ask them to ask me for a drink of water twice; the first time with their palms up, and the second time with their palms down (normally on a table/desk).