By | Roselle Umlas | hackspirit.com
Receiving criticism, no matter how well-intentioned, isn’t the most comfortable experience for many of us. In fact, a common reaction to it is to put up a wall or feel any of the following: defensive, angry, hurt, or anxious.
I’ve felt all of those things at one point or another throughout my life when I had to deal with criticism, both personally and professionally. But over the years, I realized that I could choose to go on taking criticism in a negative light…or make it work for me.
If handling criticism is an area you struggle with, I’m here to help. Let’s take a look at these nine things folks who are good at handling criticism do and learn a thing or two from them!
1) Listening with an open mind
When someone is good at handling criticism, the first thing you’ll notice is their impressive listening skills.
Now, let’s get something straight: listening is not the same as hearing. When they’re being criticized, they don’t just stand there, hearing the words but actually seeing them as a personal attack.
This used to be me. Whenever I’d get feedback from someone, even if it was delivered gently, my mind would immediately go, “But I worked really hard on this!” or “That’s not my fault…”
So, because of this defensiveness and refusal to REALLY listen, I was missing the message – and the opportunity to learn from it.
These days, I’m all about having an open mind. When someone’s willing to correct my behavior or way of thinking, I see it for what it is: a gesture of goodwill. So, that helps me do this next thing…
2) Not taking it personally
Consider these statements:
- “That’s just the way I am, and if you don’t like it, that’s not my problem.”
- “Why are you calling out just me? What about [insert name]? They did the same thing!”
- “Yeah, yeah, I know that already…” (*rolling eyes)
- “Hey, I’m doing my best here!”