Source | www.inc.com | MARLA TABAKA
An entrepreneur says, “Everyone says my fees are too high.” ,,,
In response, a business coach might say, “Everyone? Exactly how many people is that?”
Could it be everyone he meets? Everyone in his family? Three people, or ten? Either way, it’s unlikely that the answer is 100 percent, everyone.
The word, everyone, falls into a category referred to as absolutes. An absolute is defined as things that are guaranteed, exact, precise, conclusive, and unquestionable. There is no exception to an absolute; it is all-encompassing.
Leaders with high levels of emotional intelligence don’t operate from a place of bias, which is one of the issues with absolute thinking. It causes errors in judgment about yourself, others, or the world in general. Psychologists say that it can lead to stress, depression, and anxiety.
Words are powerful, and the more we repeat negative statements, the deeper our limiting core beliefs may become. And, these beliefs can easily create an invisible barrier to your success. Be aware of absolutes; here are some further examples.
Back to “everyone.” If you hear something from one or two people, it does not mean it’s true to 100 percent of the people you meet. When I listen to entrepreneurs use this absolute in reference to their business, I ask who “everyone” is. Usually, it’s someone (or maybe two someone’s) who aren’t in their target audience: a relative, a friend, or an individual who has wrongly taken on the position of advisor.