Source | Forbes : By Liz Ryan
If you are going to write a Pain Letter which rests on the human connection between one business person (you) and another one (your Pain Letter’s recipient) you can’t very well start out the letter by being artificially starchy and formal! Communication of any kind implies a certain relationship between the sender and the receiver of the message.
In a Pain Letter, the implied relationship is one between equals. In a Pain Letter, you are no longer a lowly and subservient job-seeker. You are another business person, just like your letter’s reader, and you are also someone who may have the answer to your Pain Letter recipient’s biggest problem!
The old ways are falling away in front of our eyes. Job-seekers don’t have to be sheep anymore. You can show up on a job interview as yourself, full of questions and ideas. You don’t have to sit meekly in the interview chair like a fourth-grader taking an oral exam.
If that is the setup you find when you get to the interview, you already know the job is not a good fit for you!
Let them hire someone with less talent and less self-esteem than you bring to the party.
Here are 10 traditional job search rules you now have permission to break.
• The rule “Only apply for posted jobs by using the method specified in the job ad [for instance, completing our online job application].”
• The rule “Only send us (or upload) a resume that sounds like every other stodgy, boring resume every other job-seeker uses.”
• The rule “Use your cover letter to tell us how your background matches the essential requirements specified in our job ad.”
• The rule “Don’t contact us about job openings unless you see a job ad that suits your skills.”
• The rule “Come to a job interview ready to please the interviewer and talk about how you are better than the other applicants for the job.”
• The rule “The best-qualified person for any job is the person who has the most relevant experience — meaning lots of work experience in the same role with the same title, in the same function and the same type of company.”
• The rule “Save your questions about the job in case there is time at the end of your interview for us to answer them. The primary purpose of the interview is for us to decide whether you deserve a second interview.”
• The rule “Whatever the employer representatives ask you to do during the interview process is just part of the interview process, so do it.”
• The rule “Do whatever you have to do to get the job offer. You can always turn it down.”